MENTAL MUTHA MEETS TOTS IN NOTTS
MENTAL MUTHA MEETS TOTS IN NOTTS
Are you a mental Mum or a Mum that’s mental?
A mum that often feels mental. I’m sure I look like a mental mum as I’m chasing the toddler around a coffee shop with a potty in one hand, the baby in the other and a pack of wipes between my teeth. I think it’s a close call between the 3 of us as to who looks more feral most days.
What do you do when you feel overwhelmed? Meditate? Talk? Hide?
Panic, hide, eat, panic more. Eventually I remind myself to just stop and breathe and check in with the fact that everyone in my care is ok and the world isn’t actually ending even if it feels that way sometimes.
Do you discuss your mental health with your mum mates?
Yes, talking to my mum friends helps enormously. They nod and they hug, they listen and talk and they pour the drinks because they get it, they know. They have dragged me out from some deep, dark holes along the way and just knowing that when I stumble there will be an outstretched hand means everything. Being able to do the same for them is really positive for me too, win, win!
How do you tackle mental health chats with your kid’s?
This is something I will be looking to other mental muthas for help with. The biggest kid is just 3 and I’m very aware that he understands so much already. I always encourage others to talk, to be open and honest as it’s the only way to break this crappy taboo but I really need to take my own advice. I want my kids to understand that spending time on mental wellness is just as important as physical wellness.
Who helps you in the dark? (In your pits, your mental rock bottom - who is your hero?)
The legend that is my mum and my close friends. They are incredible, they swoop in and save me on the regular.
In more indirect ways my partner shields me from a lot of crap. He does what he can to make my life as easy as possible when I’m finding things tough.
What helps you in the light? (Meditation? Procrastination? Perspiration? People?)
People for sure, getting out into the fresh air and feeling part of society, writing lists, doing something to help others and cheese.
Is it hard to talk about your mental health? (Doesn't mean on Instagram necessarily, but do you feel the stigma is lifting and do you feel safe to speak your mind, even if it is possibly 'mental'?)
I think it’s definitely getting easier. We are talking more openly and educating one another so it’s becoming more “normal” to talk about it. Since becoming a mum I definitely feel more ‘mental’ but I give less of a shit about people knowing that about me than I did pre kids.
Where’s your head at? (Right here in this moment, today)
Today has been a good day. I’m knackered and I’ve not achieved much but I agreed with myself this morning that it was going to be that kind of a day so I didn’t heap the pressure on myself for it to be anything more than that. I know the mean reds are just around the corner but my fists are up and my gang is behind me.
Soft Play or Rehab?
Soft effing play for my sins.
Jacobs Creek or a Jacobs Cracker? (Not sponsored)
It will have to be Jacobs Creek as a cracker doesn’t take the edge off quite so well.
Nut Job or Nut Allergy?
Self Care or Self Sabotage?
Argh, both. I’m working on this. The self sabotage urge is strong but I’m fighting back and trying to carve out some time for me, me the person, not as mum, not as business owner, not as partner, just as me.
Journal or jog?
Journal, cos lord knows I may burst into flames if I get within a foot of Lycra or a pair of trainers.
Ask for help or happy to hermit?
Both. Some days call for a sofa shutdown with parenting help drafted in from team Netflix, you’ve got to do what you’ve got to do right? Other days it’s time to send out the SOS and take the support that I’d be advising someone else to take.
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