MENTAL MUTHA MEETS FRITHA QUINN
MENTAL MUTHA MEETS FRITHA QUINN
Are you a mental Mum or a Mum that’s mental?
I think from the outset people probably think I’m really together and have it all sorted but I definitely have times when I feel mental!
I’ve dealt with anxiety for probably the past 17 years or so, I did see a councillor as some point in my teens for erratic and OCD behaviour but by 20 I had a full on breakdown and actually wheeled a suitcase to the Dr’s and asked them to section me. They didn’t, but put me on medication until I was around 21. I worried so much when I became pregnant that I would have PND and looking back I definitely did for a few months but nothing to the severity of how bad it could have got. In a weird way having kids has grounded me in a way I couldn’t do pre-motherhood.
What do you do when you feel overwhelmed? Meditate? Talk? Hide?
I recently had a major panic attack at the start of the year and for the following couple of weeks clung onto meditation in order to get me through the day and be able to breath. I now know I need to practise it when I’m not panicking too. I find that I hide away and don’t want to show people when I’m feeling vulnerable.
Do you discuss your mental health with your mum mates?
Yes, I’m lucky that I have some amazing mum mates that wouldn’t bat an eyelid if you told them you spent the evening trying not to imagine your tongue swelling in your throat out of panic. Ones that would drop anything to come round your house or don’t care if you burst into tears into your coffee.
How do you tackle mental health chats with your kid’s?
That’s such a good question. My kids were around when I had a panic attack recently and I felt so guilty that it must have been scary for them. My toddler spent the week saying ‘mummy die?’ Which was pretty harrowing but my 6 year old was happy enough that he was allowed to watch Dinosaur King and I’ve explained it afterwards that I was very poorly and that I wasn’t really dying. I’d love to know how other people deal with subjects like this for really young kids.
Who helps you in the dark?
Not wanting to sound corny but my husband Tom is literally my rock. He will also take the piss out of me to just the right amount to make me smile again. I find that Instagram can also be such a lifeline, people share their stories and make you feel less weird, although only in the right doses. Sometimes that platform can be a curse too!
What helps you in the light? (Meditation? Procrastination? Perspiration? People?)
Stepping back and making everything simple, no requirements to be anywhere, chatting with Tom, eating food, taking a bath. Basically just being and not thinking too much.
Is it hard to talk about your mental health? (Doesn't mean on Instagram necessarily, but do you feel the stigma is lifting and do you feel safe to speak your mind, even if it is possibly 'mental’?)
For sure! I have some friends who have gone though really bad PND so I wonder if as mums we maybe talk about it a bit more anyway? I’ve had depression in some form for about 15 years though and I guess I tend to find infinity with kindred spirts so it’s defo not a weird subject for me.
Where’s your head at?
Today feels pretty OK, I feel like I have most of my values right so it’s pretty chilled. It’s a good day!
Soft Play or Rehab?
I have set foot in a soft play twice in my life, the thought is enough to give me anxiety ;)
Jacobs Creek or a Jacobs Cracker?
Nut Job or Nut Allergy?
Jacobs Creek with a side of Nut Job
Self Care or Self Sabotage?
Journal or jog?
Ask for help or happy to hermit?
Hermit but I am getting better at asking for help!
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