MENTAL MUTHA MEETS KATE PEERS
Kate Peers is known, she knows 'the people', she 'is the people', she knows who 'you need to meet' before you do and she does all of this whilst writing fabulous parenting, lifestyle and travel features for the world to read. Oh and she is raising 3 boys Jack, Cody and Sam with Dan the carpenter in Sussex. She took on 'the pink house' on Worthing seafront (those who know, know), she is a Digital Mum and helps companies like The Outdoors Project with their social media management and marketing.
MENTAL MUTHA MEETS KATE PEERS
Are you a mental Mum or a Mum that’s mental?
I am both.
What do you do when you feel overwhelmed? Meditate? Talk? Hide?
Sometimes when I am overwhelmed I freeze and do nothing, my to do list feels so long I can’t even do the shopping list. Other times I ring a friend or my sister and break it down into little steps and decide what to do first. I can give good advice to others but when I myself am faced with overwhelm my fight or flight kicks in and rational thinking goes out of the window.
Do you discuss your mental health with your mum mates?
Sometimes. Most of the time I want to have fun when I am seeing friends. They have seen me plenty of times in tears post school drop off, so if I catch them on one of those days then we go in for the chat!
How do you tackle mental health chats with your kid’s?
My kids have grown up knowing that life isn't always roses. They watched my dad undergoing treatment for cancer, my four-year-old at the time used to try to teach him how to stand up when he was very ill. It has taught them kindness, empathy and patience. When I am upset about my parents not being around I am honest about it if I am weepy. To pretend that they weren't alive and I don't miss them would be weird. Equally, I do try to have my moments when they aren't around as the eldest already has a worry that Dan and I will die and leave him. It is better that they see me crying than screaming and I have found out that grief can present itself as anger when suppressed.
Who helps you in the dark? (In your pits, your mental rock bottom - who is your hero?)
Various close friends and my sister. I alternate between them and can phone them with anything, knowing that they won’t judge, will always be there and are my support network.
What helps you in the light? (Meditation? Procrastination? Perspiration? People?)
Laughter, friendship, prosecco with mum mates and more recently yoga. A new place called Hotpod Yoga has opened in Worthing, the music is fab, it’s like going into a cocoon and you forget everything in there. I also like going to the Yoga Garden, a yurt up in the downs, it’s very Zen and is like a mini retreat each time I go. Holidays and sunshine help me too!
Is it hard to talk about your mental health? (Doesn't mean on Instagram necessarily, but do you feel the stigma is lifting and do you feel safe to speak your mind, even if it is possibly 'mental'?)
Some people don't get it. I have tried to talk to a few people in the past and they get frustrated "just cheer up" or "you'll be over it soon", they are either very lucky that nothing has happened yet to cause them deep upset or blessed to be so positive.
Where’s your head at?
Very calm. I am in the library in Brighton, it is quiet and peaceful. I am looking through books, researching a chapter for a new book that I am contributing to. Writing is cathartic and brings me real calm.
Soft Play or Rehab?
Jacobs Creek or a Jacobs Cracker?
Creek - always
Nut Job or Nut Allergy?
Self-Care or Self Sabotage?
Self-care - unless I have PMT and I just press the fuck it button on the food front for a day a month
Journal or jog?
Ask for help or happy to hermit?
Both - I can ask for help when I need it but sometimes like to chill and hermit, particularly at this time of year!
Follow Kate : @madabouttheboys
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