MENTAL MUTHA MEETS 3 KIDS, NO SLEEP
Jo AKA '3 Kids, No Sleep' is trying to stay sane/awake whilst raising 3 humans. No sleep does something to your mental well-being and Jo writes honestly about her struggles with the lack of zzzzz and her abundance of sadness. Motherhood is BLOODY hard and there is no shame in the struggle. You can love your kids, but the struggle is real.
MENTAL MUTHA MEETS 3 KIDS, NO SLEEP
Are you a mental Mum or a Mum that’s mental?
A mum that's mental :)
What do you do when you feel overwhelmed? Meditate? Talk? Hide?
Hide - I'm terrible for cancelling plans but I do really need to hibernate when I feel overwhelmed.
Do you discuss your mental health with your mum mates?
Yes, some of them. Only really recently though. I always feel like I'm a broken record though repeating the same issues to my friends. I'm really lucky to have the best group of friends though who are supportive and make me feel less mental than I feel.
How do you tackle mental health chats with your kid’s?
I got to a point where I'd be crying a lot and found it hard to hide. I tell them “mummy's feeling a bit sad”, but it's nothing they've done. If I am having a particularly bad time I sometimes do tell white lies and I'll tell them I've got a tummy ache or I don't feel well, because I don't want them to worry about me, and think mummy's always sad but she doesn't know why. As they get older I'm sure I will be more honest with them and always tell them it's OK to feel down / sad / upset and they can always talk to me.
Who helps you in the dark? (In your pits, your mental rock bottom - who is your hero?)
All my friends are fab but there's three of my good friends who are particularly good at giving me a massive reality check and also making me rationalize my thoughts /feelings. Laura, Zoe and Vicky - I really am thankful to be able to offload to them.
Who helps you in the light? (Meditation? Procrastination? Perspiration? People?)
Fresh air - I haven't done any proper exercise for a while because I am a lazy mofo at the moment BUT getting out even for a walk or to the park with the threenager always makes me feel better. Also having a quiet day (as quiet as it can be with a three-year-old!) and generally not putting any pressure on myself I have no shame in ordering a takeaway and plonking my bum on the sofa with my babies if I am feeling it.
Is it hard to talk about your mental health? (Doesn't mean on Instagram necessarily, but do you feel the stigma is lifting and do you feel safe to speak your mind, even if it is possibly 'mental'?)
I definitely feel like it's lifting. My issues have been apparent for about 2.5 years but actually when I thought about it I've experienced issues all my life. It's only really the last 6 months I've felt like I am not the only person having these thoughts and feelings and actually - motherhood is BLOODY hard and it's not shameful to struggle with any aspect. I feel much more able to speak freely about how I feel now.
Where’s your head at?
Today, I feel good. Littlest is at preschool and big 2 at school so I have time to get some jobs done, do some life admin and generally enjoy silence. I never realised how much I enjoyed silence til I had kids. Having a proper break really helps me function.
Soft Play or Rehab?
I'm a weirdo who actually doesn't mind soft play! (Disclaimer - only during school hours, in term time, with one child, in the morning. Leave as soon as the lunchtime rush comes in!)
Jacobs Creek or a Jacobs Cracker?
A cup of tea with bourbons dipped in. Heaven.
Nut Job or Nut Allergy?
Nut job! Being sane is so overrated.
Self-Care or Self Sabotage?
Self-care!!!!!! I have got really good at giving my husband the nod and telling him I'm going upstairs for 10 minutes. Which translates to "I think I am losing my shit, can you please hold the fort whilst I go and scream into a pillow?"
I also do love a long hot bubble bath when I'm feeling stressed. Know it's a cliché but it really helps to relax after a hard day.
Journal or jog?
Jog. Without the jogging part. Any sort of movement that gets my endorphins flowing makes me feel better, my cardio at the moment is putting Kisstory on really loud and dancing whilst doing the housework.
Ask for help or happy to hermit?
Hmmm that's a hard one - I do both. Probably more of a hermit though. I have never valued solace as much since having my third baby. But I am more likely to ask for help than I was, and would hope any of my friends would ask me for help if they needed it.
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