MENTAL MUTHA MEETS ROCK N ROSE
MENTAL MUTHA MEETS ROCK N ROSE
Are you a mental Mum or a Mum that’s mental?
Motherhood has made me at least 100% more mental than I was pre-babies, that’s for sure. I definitely fall into the mental Mum category, I can totally imagine Nora telling me how embarrassing I am in a few year’s time.
What do you do when you feel overwhelmed? Meditate? Talk? Hide?
My initial response when overwhelmed is to cry, I’m a really over emotional person and it really doesn’t take a lot to push me to shed a few tears. It’s usually nothing that a good old soak in a lavender bath with a cup of tea can’t solve though - that’s definitely my go-to chill out ritual.
Do you discuss your mental health with your mum mates?
Absolutely, I feel really lucky to be surrounded by a whole host of lovely Mums who aren’t afraid to let each other know if and when they’re struggling or just generally feeling like a bit of a shit Mum. I really do believe in the whole ‘it takes a village’ ethos and being able to speak openly and help each other out whether it be online or in real life its hugely important.
How do you tackle mental health chats with your kid’s?
This isn’t something we’ve specifically had to discuss yet with Nora and Woody being so young but mental health is a very important and totally relevant issue in our house and family. I will always make sure they both grow up knowing it’s okay to feel all those feels we encounter as a human. I want them to know that we are here for them no matter what is is that they’re feeling, whether it be positive or negative or anything in between. I feel they’ve been born into a generation who will really understand and are aware of mental health issues and this can only be a positive thing. We’re all about talking and being open in our family and I really hope this means they’ll confide in us, always.
Who helps you in the dark? (In your pits, your mental rock bottom - who is your hero?)
I’m so lucky to have so many bright, shining lights in my life. My sis @emilyjanelathan in particular is always there to scoop me back up from rock bottom and pop me back on my perch, goodness knows what I’d do without her.
What helps you in the light? (Meditation? Procrastination? Perspiration? People?)
Definitely people. I love nothing more than my house to be overflowing with my nearest and dearest. I love a good chat with my lovely work girls and my school run Mums - particularly when it involves a cocktail or too. Who says gin makes women cry? Cry with laughter more like. The simplest of things like a walk to the park with the kids always makes me feel endless amounts of happy. It’s the little things isn't it.
Is it hard to talk about your mental health? (Doesn't mean on Instagram necessarily, but do you feel the stigma is lifting and do you feel safe to speak your mind, even if it is possibly 'mental'?)
Go back a year and I’d have said no. I very much was one of those people who didn’t particularly understand or was even aware of mental health issues. Fast forward a year, a whole load of heartache and a huge amount of learning, I now understand that talking about our state of mind really is so important for a healthy relationship with our inner selves. I have no issues letting people know how I’m feeling although I often feel guilty for spouting off about feeling rubbish when I know there are so many people in a worse place, if that makes sense.
Where’s your head at? (Right here in this moment, today)
Today I am so thankful for that little bit of blue sky we have going on up North. It sounds so ridiculous but this whole post Christmas blues, perma-grey weather has really reflected in my seriously-can’t-be-bothered, miserable being recently. Overall though, I am graciously welcoming the new year, 2017 was a terrible one for us and I love the idea of the new beginnings that each year brings. I’m always thankful for our health and happiness and I’m looking forward to seeing what this year has in store for us. Plus, I have coffee and my sleep thief of a child actually slept last night. Definitely pulled on my rather large, but positive pants this morning.
Soft Play or Rehab?
Soft Play - I can drink coffee whilst Daddy chases the ferrel children, it’s really quite enjoyable.
Jacobs Creek or a Jacobs Cracker?
Jacobs Crackers for sure. Give.me.all.the.food.
Nut Job or Nut Allergy?
Who doesn’t love a good nut job?!
Self-Care or Self Sabotage?
I am a terrible self-saboteur, must work on that for sure.
Journal or jog?
Both! Writing is the perfect release for me but I am forever promising myself I’ll start to jog again; those endorphins are always welcomed. Maybe today is the day?
Ask for help or happy to hermit?
Help me, please - a phrase I unashamedly coin quite frequently. Remember, behind every successful woman is a tribe of other successful people who have her back - never forget that.
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