MENTAL MUTHA MEETS JO LOVE
MENTAL MUTHA MEETS JO LOVE
Are you a mental Mum or a Mum that’s mental?
I think I’m more of a mum that’s mental. I’ve suffered from PND and that’s given me a really raw introduction to motherhood.
What do you do when you feel overwhelmed? Meditate? Talk? Hide?
As a business woman and mum of a busy toddler it’s so, so easy to feel the overwhelm! I can think I’m managing everything ok and then suddenly it will hit me. How I react could be any one of these, depending on how I feel and what kind of day it is. Sometimes I find hiding away and switching off from emails and setting myself a to do list with no distractions makes me feel like I can take control back again. Other days I have to babble and talk about stuff to make sense of it, and yep, meditation is always a back up plan too. I have the Headspace app on my phone for moments of need!
Do you discuss your mental health with your mum mates?
I have a lot of mum mates that I’ve met through Instagram that I’ve been able to talk to about my own mental health issues and mental health in general. I think talking is one of the most important things we can do to chip away at the stigma associated with mental health and motherhood. I still see a counsellor about my PND and couldn’t survive without her weekly support and guidance, she’s magical!
How do you tackle mental health chats with your kid’s?
My daughter is still a bit too young, she’s only a toddler! Of course when the time comes to discuss mental health I think I’ll take a ‘honesty is the best policy’ approach. It can’t hurt to be truthful, and so much of mental health involves pretending things are ok – I’d like my daughter to know that it’s ok not to be ok.
Who helps you in the dark?
I’ve definitely had some dark moments, and to be honest my counsellor has been the one to help me through - she has the ability to help me see things differently and can guide me without leading me. I think that’s a really difficult balance, but when I’ve felt without hope, she has been there, helping me to help myself. I think the importance of professional help is massively underestimated when it comes to mental health – the difference counselling has made to my life has been absolutely huge.
What helps you in the light?
I’m definitely a people person and a sharer. I think a problem shared really does halve it and for me, my biggest outlet has been Instagram. I’ll talk regularly about mental health on there and have found so many others have experienced mental health issues and just want a place to share them without feeling judged. I feel good when I’m talking and these days, I talk a lot.
Is it hard to talk about your mental health?
Not any more. I used to feel very afraid about speaking about how I was really feeling. With postnatal depression you’re so aware that you’re supposed to be a happy new mum and in some kind of newborn bubble, but for me it just felt like I was living someone else’s life. I felt disconnected, overwhelmed and like I didn’t deserve this beautiful baby as I had failed at motherhood. It’s so challenging to admit to mental health issues but once you have, it just gets easier. Now I share insight from my counselling sessions weekly and find talking makes things more acceptable and more normal. These days if the world wants me to whisper about something, I’ll shout.
Where’s your head at?
I’m feeling super positive right now, today. I’m still on the adrenaline rush of having my business Lobella Loves out there in the real world. I do have dark days and overwhelm but I feel more and more that I can handle whatever life throws at me.
Soft Play or Rehab?
I think I’d have more fun at Rehab!
Jacobs Creek or a Jacobs Cracker?
Both together please with a slab of cheese!
Nut Job or Nut Allergy?
Self Care or Self Sabotage?
Self Sabotage followed by Self Care. For me that’d be a big night out with far too much gin, followed by a spa day. Yes please!
Journal or jog?
Jog – I’m looking at you Vickie (aka @inpolife)
Ask for help or happy to hermit?
Ask for help – it’s amazing how many people are happy to be there in your hour of need!
Jo Love, Founder of Lobella Loves
Money from every sale goes to charities helping mums with PND.
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