MENTAL MUTHA MEETS REBEKA BAILEY
MENTAL MUTHA MEETS REBEKA BAILEY
Are you a mental Mum or a Mum that’s mental?
Definitely a mental Mum. I over think everything, worst-case-scenario everything, panic over everything, obsess over everything. I have OCD. I obsessively check my heart beat. If I can’t feel my pulse, I can spiral out of control and go into an ultimate panic attack. It’s currently under control, but I have my moments - and that’s okay.
What do you do when you feel overwhelmed? Meditate? Talk? Hide?
Talk. Lots of talking. I also exercise, meditate, do yoga, heavy/belly breathing, read, listen to podcasts, therapy. I try and do as much self-help as I possibly can! I used to hide away, which is when everything got horrific and when I was at my lowest point I hadn’t left the house for weeks. I forced myself out one day and I couldn’t believe how much better I felt! From there I’ve tried to do everything I can to help me mentally.
Do you discuss your mental health with your mum mates?
I am a huge believer in talking about my mental health (probably over share), but I never knew how I felt or if it was normal until I spoke to other mums about it. I remember going to the doctors and saying how low I was feeling, how anxious I was, how my panic attacks were over taking my life, and she said “yeah, every new mum has this”. So I started speaking to the mums I knew, and it turns out, my doctor was right. I’m lucky that the people I’ve spoken to about it have been really receptive and open about what they are going through too, and it’s really helped me in my journey.
How do you tackle mental health chats with your kid’s?
I talk as openly as you can to a 5 year old. My son has sensory issues, so he can get quite anxious about things. I’ve taught him some breathing techniques, I’ve even cut up and sewn in bits of his blanket into his school trouser pockets so he can touch it and be less anxious at school. I let him know it’s all normal. It’s helped him massively and now he doesn’t get anxious much at all.
Who helps you in the dark? (In your pits, your mental rock bottom - who is your hero?)
Rowan, my partner. He’s been great, but it has been a real journey. He was never sure what to do when I was feeling anxious and I didn’t know what I wanted him to do! But he’s always there when I need him. He’s left work early just to come and take over at home so I can sort myself out. Also my close friends, I really don’t know what I would do with out them. The other week I stormed in to my friends house in the middle of a panic attack like “CALM ME DOWN PLEASE!”, and she did. I don’t know how they all put up with me.
What helps you in the light? (Meditation? Procrastination? Perspiration? People?)
All of the above.
Is it hard to talk about your mental health? (Doesn't mean on Instagram necessarily, but do you feel the stigma is lifting and do you feel safe to speak your mind, even if it is possibly 'mental'?)
I personally don’t find it hard, I’m quite good at sticking up for myself and I’m quite a head strong person, so I wouldn’t get upset if someone was to say “that’s not normal” or “maybe you shouldn’t be speaking about this”. But I do know people that feel like they can’t talk about it, or have been shunned because they have.
Where’s your head at?
Today I’ve had 2 panic attacks and practically run out of Tesco. But I’ve used all my techniques, popped a propranolol and now I’m feeling a bit less anxious.
Soft Play or Rehab? Rehab.
Soft play is hell.
Jacobs Creek or a Jacobs Cracker?
Jacobs Creek. Wine. Always wine.
Nut Job or Nut Allergy?
Who doesn’t love a dry roasted?
Self Care or Self Sabotage?
Journal or jog?
Ask for help or happy to hermit?
Ask for help!
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