MENTAL MUTHA MEETS LAYLA ADAMS
MENTAL MUTHA MEETS LAYLA ADAMS
Are you a mental Mum or a Mum that’s mental?
It depends on what day it is 😉 Some days I'm the mum that’s mental, losing her shit cause the kids are making too much noise or trashing my OCD haven, otherwise known as their home. Other days I'm the mum putting on tea parties with Barbie and Action Man. God love my kids!
What do you do when you feel overwhelmed? Meditate? Talk? Hide?
Ugh, I shout! Unfortunately it's 1 of my PSTD triggers. It's an immediate reaction that my body has before my brain can catch a second to think (I'm working on it). And then I totally hide, I'm an introvert for sure. As for meditation, I'm all for it but my mind wonders into the land of “what’s for dinner tomorrow night, have I made Ellie's lunchbox” and all things counterproductive.
Do you discuss your mental health with your mum mates?
I don't have any mum mates. I do have 1 great friend and she's beyond brilliant but because this mum gig is 24/7 (who knew) I rarely get to see her.
How do you tackle mental health chats with your kid’s?
My kid's don't know about my mental health struggles, as they get older I'll explain it to them in hope that it can lessen any stigma attached to such issues. In regards to their own personal mental health I openly discuss with them that if they ever feel sad, uncomfortable or confused about anything that it's important they tell mummy and we can work it out together. People have emotions and that's okay.
Who helps you in the dark? (In your pits, your mental rock bottom - who is your hero?)
I don't have 1 person I tell everything to. But my friend Colleen is beyond wise and I always leave our catch ups feeling up lifted so I'd have to say her. But on a daily basis I'd have to say my kids, they create a lot of stressful situations for me but in my darkest hour it's been because of them I've carried on.
What helps you in the light? (Meditation? Procrastination? Perspiration? People?)
Exercise, eating right and sleep. 3 basic elements but if I physically feel my best my mental attitude improves.
Is it hard to talk about your mental health?
I find it hard yeah, mainly because I feel like others have worse problems and who am I to say “Oh Hey I struggle too”. I don't necessarily feel safe talking about it because I still feel I am being judged. In regards to mental health stigma, I think it's definitely lifted in the online world. But in the real world it's still very evident, my manager at work would ask me how I'm doing with my mental health but other than that it's still a very taboo subject in my social circle.
Where’s your head at?
Today I'm sleepy, I had a deep session with my psychologist yesterday and my head is stuck in our appointment. Although answering these questions is like therapy so that's fab!
Soft Play or Rehab?
Soft Play has cake, does Rehab have cake?
Jacobs Creek or a Jacobs Cracker?
I'm going to be boring and say give me all the crackers, I'm not a big drinker.
Nut Job or Nut Allergy?
Nut Job for sure.
Self Care or Self Sabotage?
I'm in a habit of self sabotage at the minute (over eating and skin picking) but I'm working on it, obviously I want to be all about self care!
Journal or jog?
I couldn't run the length of myself 😂 so journal.
Ask for help or happy to hermit?
Hermit all the way, I'm stubborn lol.
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