MENTAL MUTHA MEETS ALEXIS STICKLAND

MENTAL MUTHA MEETS ALEXIS STICKLAND

MENTAL MUTHA MEETS ALEXIS STICKLAND

I have to talk it out- always have. A problem shared is a problem halved right ?!
— Alexis

Are you a mental Mum or a Mum that’s mental?
Mum that’s mental

What do you do when you feel overwhelmed? Meditate? Talk? Hide?

I have to talk it out- always have. A problem shared is a problem halved right ?!

Do you discuss your mental health with your mum mates?

Absolutely. It’s how I realised what was going on in the first place place. Back in 2014 when I started experiencing acute anxiety I genuinely thought I was physically ill- I even took myself to A&E terrified I was having a heart attack. After I was reassured that I was physically ok I went home, but still felt awful. It was one of my best friends who said they thought it might be anxiety. No one in A&E even mentioned anxiety or mental illness.

How do you tackle mental health chats with your kid’s?

I talk to them about how they are feeling. When I was going through the worst of it and I was actually going to hopsital 3 times a week for intensive cbt, my son asked me ‘ what’s hurting mummy’ I said ‘ my head darling’ - it’s difficult to explain to them as it’s so invisible.

Who helps you in the dark? (In your pits, your mental rock bottom - who is your hero?)

My family and friends. During my third pregnancy my anxiety & depression hit a peak and I was so lucky that my tribe took over. Dan, Mum & Mum in law stepped in with looking after the kids - friends helped with school run and one of my besties Betty, who lives a distance away would send me post cards every few days reminding me that I was on her mind & that she loved me

What helps you in the light?
Feeling organised, having a community of women around me, listening to mindfulness tracks (calm is a great app)

Is it hard to talk about your mental health? (Doesn't mean on Instagram necessarily, but do you feel the stigma is lifting and do you feel safe to speak your mind, even if it is possibly 'mental'?)

I did not feel the stigma because when I was really ill with anxiety and bombarded by terrifying  intrusive thoughts, it was so debilitating physically and mentally that I knew I had to get support and treatment. I couldn’t sleep, i couldn’t let my husband leave me alone with my kids- frankly I was barely functioning. My awareness that something in my noggin was broken was so evident that I could not ignore it or chalk it off to something that didn’t really exist !

Where’s your head at? (Right here in this moment, today)
It ok - I still get a bit of anxiety here & there, but as my wonderful Gp said- who doesn’t in a world of Trump & Brexit,  I have my strategies though, and I know if it got bad again I would know what to do and who to talk to.


Soft Play or Rehab?


Rehab - The Priory does great food, just saying ( the therapy’s not bad either)


Jacobs Creek or a Jacobs Cracker?

Jacobs cracker - with lashings of salted butter please


Nut Job or Nut Allergy?

I genuinely have a nut allergy


Self Care or Self Sabotage?

70/30


Journal or jog?

Journal


Ask for help or happy to hermit?


Shout for help from the roof tops ! No shame here love x

 

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