MENTAL MUTHA MEETS EMILY TUDOR
MENTAL MUTHA MEETS EMILY TUDOR
Are you a mental Mum or a Mum that’s mental?
I am a mum that’s mental and a mental mum (not ashamed of it)
What do you do when you feel overwhelmed? Meditate? Talk? Hide?
I usually try and get time away by myself, usually hiding upstairs for five minutes to try and calm down abit. I also talk to my friends and try and just discuss what’s bothering me. I have some really good friends who have got me through some bad times and I can tell them how I am feeling and they can reassure me things will be okay. When you are trapped in your own mind with intrusive thoughts it’s really hard to switch off and focus on anything else , I often find getting out the house and going for a long walk, coffee or a friends house can help this and helps the thoughts pass.
Do you discuss your mental health with your mum mates?
Yes I do! Although some of them I am abit less open with. I do talk openly about my mental health with most people now though. I really want to promote postnatal mental health issues and if I wasn’t open about things I am not sure how I could help other mums. I think it’s so important to discuss things as not talking can make you feel very alone and isolated.
How do you tackle mental health chats with your kid’s?
My little boy is too small. With my little girl (she is 4), I might say mummy is stressed, or sad or worried. I keep things simple. I try and ask her often how she is feeling too but she usually changes the subject to repunzel or something!
Who helps you in the dark? (In your pits, your mental rock bottom - who is your hero?
I would say my biggest help has been my friends , the ones who have also experienced mental health issues! They have helped me through my darkest and loneliest days, I have had some bad bad days. Also my husband has helped me face my fears when I have been anxious.
What helps you in the light? (Meditation? Procrastination? Perspiration? People?)
Positive People and uplifting music, I often listen to music and it helps me switch off. I also enjoy reading blogs about women’s mental health and following people on social media who are making change for it. I find this really inspiring and makes me feel I can get through my bad days and with my experiences maybe help other mums who are suffering with pnd/anxiety/Ocd.
Is it hard to talk about your mental health?
I find it hard to talk about mental health in some situations, such as with my friends who may not know about my mental health issues or those I don’t know very well. If I am also with some mums who I feel are not struggling I won’t bring up my mental health difficulties as I think they won’t understand, but actually they could be struggling too and I just won’t know it!. I feel there is a huge stigma still, although slowly things are getting better (with social media and campaigns). When I first became unwell I was petrified what people would say and kept it to myself, but once I told people I felt relieved. I don’t really understand why there is a stigma to be honest , if you had a broken arm you wouldn’t feel shame, but a broken mind you feel you can’t tell a sole.
Where’s your head at? (Right here in this moment, today)
Yesterday I did my first ‘mums in mind’ group, this is a group set up for mums with perinatal mental health illnesses (pnd,pna etc). I decided to start it as when I was at my worse (most poorly) I had hardly any peer support and couldn’t find any groups for Mother’s with perinatal illnesses- I honestly can’t believe this isn’t happening?. So today I feel happy and motivated. However earlier both children were screaming and I wasn’t so happy then.
Soft Play or Rehab?
Soft play (as long as my husband comes and I can sit down with a coffee).
Jacobs Creek or a Jacobs Cracker?
Cracker with lots of philly on it
Nut Job or Nut Allergy?
Nut job (especially when I can’t find my keys before school run and my little girl announces she needs the toilet as we walk out the door).
Self Care or Self Sabotage
Self care if I get time! Self sabotage if I am having a bad day.
Journal or jog?
Journal! The positive planner is great!
Ask for help or happy to hermit?
Ask for help.... Always!
Promoting women’s postnatal health via ‘mums in mind’ group.
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