Are you a mental Mum or a Mum that’s mental?

Oh I’d say I’m a mental mum… but I don’t want post natal depression to define me. I’d like to think I’m like every normal mum. I think we can all he a bit mental at times… and what is normal anyways? 

What do you do when you feel overwhelmed? Meditate? Talk? Hide?

I have tendency to overreact, hyperventilate and cry (my bladder is too near my eyes)… 

However, my top practical things to do are:

  1. Telling myself to STOP and think will this really matter in 10 minutes, tomorrow, next week etc. 
  2. Writing To DO LISTS. II have always been an organised person. Now that I have a little man to look after my life is more like organised chaos. I get a great sense of fulfilment when I tick jobs off my list and at the end of the day looking back at all I have done. 
  3. BREATHING. Taking proper deep breaths. I took up a yoga class and it’s probably the only hour a week I breath properly. 

Do you discuss your mental health with your mum mates?

Yes I have a few mammy friends that I couldn’t have gotten through the past year without. I  met a couple of friends through the Mush App. These girls just get it and having someone to talk to who has had similar experience to talk to. However, since writing my first blog post and opening up about my PND other friends have contacted me and I’m happy to talk to anyone about mental health now. 

How do you tackle mental health chats with your kid’s?

My son is too young to chat, his vocabulary is limited to mama, dada, ta, more, dodo (soother) and wowow (dog). However, I hope that when he is old enough to understand mental health there will be less stigma surrounding it. I want him to know its OK not to be OK and never be ashamed to ask for help. 

Who helps you in the dark? (In your pits, your mental rock bottom - who is your hero?)

I am a very lucky woman to be am surrounded by people who love and support me. Having so much help but still can often make 'feeling down' lead to a lot of guilt. If it wasn’t for my husband and mam pushing me to go to the doctor I might not be here today. My sister is always there for me in my hour of need. I don’t know what I would do without my family. 

What helps you in the light? (Meditation? Procrastination? Perspiration? People?)

Making sure I get up, get dressed and leave the house at least once a day. 

Learning to ask for help or accepting help when offered. 

Taking time out for myself. My weekly yoga class, a bath, or coffee at nap time. 

My new found love of writing has become very therapeutic for me. I feel I no longer have hide or be ashamed. I’m not fully recovered yet and I’m not sure I will ever will but I need to remind myself how far I have come and look at what I have achieved.

Is it hard to talk about your mental health? (Doesn't mean on Instagram necessarily, but do you feel the stigma is lifting and do you feel safe to speak your mind, even if it is possibly 'mental'?)

Before I wrote my first blog post I would never have spoken out about my mental health. I have written posts about my struggle with Post Natal Depression, bonding and paranoia as a mother. Initially my writing was a journal entry for myself but I felt others could benefit from my story so I published it. Publishing was one of the most scariest and proudest things I have done.  I feel there is still a huge stigma around mental health but I am passionate about raising awareness. I want to continue to speak out and would be happy to help anyone if needed. 

Where’s your head at? (Right here in this moment, today)

Right now I think my head is still a bit lost at sea… it’s no longer shipwrecked but I am still trying to figure out who I am. After having my son I lost my identity. I am still getting to know and love the new me (a mutha). Its taking time but I will get there. There are still a few challenges to overcome but I will get there. 

Soft Play or Rehab?

Soft  Play. I love seeing the smile on Oisín’s little face. 

Jacobs Creek or a Jacobs Cracker? 

Can I have both?! 

Nut Job or Nut Allergy?

Nut job! 

Self Care or Self Sabotage?

I’m partial to a bit of both depends on the day!

Journal or jog?

Journal? I blog. 

Jog? I walk. 

Ask for help or happy to hermit?

Ask for help. Don’t suffer in silence. We are never alone.


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