MENTAL MUTHA MEETS NINA SPENCER
MENTAL MUTHA MEETS NINA SPENCER
Are you a mental Mum or a Mum that’s mental?
I think if you asked my friends I’m a mum that’s mental. I have anxiety issues. Especially health anxiety and OCD (my hubby says it’s not the good kind that means the house is spotless but the bad kind where you can’t stop obsessing over a thought) so I’m constantly seeking reassurance from them that I’m ok.
However, if you ask my kids I’m a mental mum. Often having impromptu dance sessions at breakfast, or deciding to head to the beach on a last min plan.
What do you do when you feel overwhelmed? Meditate? Talk? Hide?
Sometimes I plan, anything from cleaning routines to holidays. Sometimes If there is someone to watch the kids I’ll head to the pool and have a swim. But sometimes just an early night with a good box set is the only thing that will do.
Do you discuss your mental health with your mum mates?
Sometimes when I’m feeling low i will let them know I’m not in a good place. I share more on social media to be honest though. There’s something about hiding behind the keyboard that makes it a little more bearable to discuss certain things. Something I even forget anyone reads it. Until people in the street ask me if I’m ok after such and such. And then I think errr how did you know. Oh yeah. Social media.
How do you tackle mental health chats with your kid’s?
When I’m crying I try and explain why if there is a reason or if there isn’t a reason I just say “do you know what I don’t know what’s up”. But i make sure they know it’s ok to cry. I’ve told them that if they feel sad or scared they can always tell me. Or if they don’t want to talk to me they should find someone they trust to tell how they feel.
Who helps you in the dark? (In your pits, your mental rock bottom - who is your hero?)
The last year I’ve hit a few dark days. My big girl has been amazing always giving me hugs when I’m crying, my boy would make cards to try and make me feel better. On my truly dark days in the past my mum has helped me. She has been in dark places herself and sort of understood how I felt. She repeats to me over and again “this too shall pass”. My friends have always got my back too when I’m feeling low. But most of all my husband. He doesn't always know what to say but he’s always there when I need him. The scariest week of my life (A life threatening, traumatic birth – too much to put in one blog post) he held my hand. He was just there with me through it all. The dark times seemed to happen after
What helps you in the light? (Meditation? Procrastination? Perspiration? People?)
I believe you have to keep on top of your mental wellbeing, There may always be bad days, weeks, months but keeping up with exercise, healthy eating and having good times with good friends is so important to keep me from falling to the dark place. Getting outside especially when the sun is shining helps keep me feeling better.
Is it hard to talk about your mental health? (Doesn't mean on Instagram necessarily, but do you feel the stigma is lifting and do you feel safe to speak your mind, even if it is possibly 'mental'?)
Do you know what, I’m very open really hence writing a blog, I do probably overshare all of my life, but sometimes I think its important to share. Some things I share especially about my mental heath when I hit that send or the words leave my mouth I get a pang of anxiety that I’ve said too much but if someone else benefits by my illness then its worth oversharing.
Where’s your head at? (Right here in this moment, today)
Right now this moment I’m good, I’m about to embark on a bloody mental new lifestyle, home schooling my 6 year old twins, and 6 month old twins, while hopefully travelling a little, and exploring new places. So ask me again in a few months time.
Soft Play or Rehab?
Aghhh both, soft play first, rehab to recover.
Jacobs Creek or a Jacobs Cracker?
Jacobs cracker with a lovely bit of red Leicester, and a nice glass of Jacobs creek to wash it down.
Nut Job or Nut Allergy?
Self Care or Self Sabotage?
I’m guilty of both self sabotage, not eating right, making excuses for not exercising, but then I feel crap so get back to practising some self care.
Journal or jog?
Both, not that I get to jog much at the moment, I’ve been recovering from a gallbladder op, and my traumatic birth
Ask for help or happy to hermit?
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