MENTAL MUTHA MEETS ZOE HILL
Are you a mental Mum or a Mum that’s mental?
A Mum that’s mental. My anxiety started 11 years ago after the sudden death of my Dad.
What do you do when you feel overwhelmed? Meditate? Talk? Hide?
When a panic attack has really taken it out of me I definitely hide away for a small amount of time. If I’m hiding - I know that’s when things have got bad. But talking is the best cure for me. And running - you can do so much thinking or even none at all when you go outside for a run. It’s good for the soul.
Do you discuss your mental health with your mum mates?
Yes definitely! You then realise how many other people suffer too and that a lot of you are all going through the same thing. It makes me feel less alone and like someone understands.
How do you tackle mental health chats with your kid’s?
My daughter is only 9 months old, so I haven’t had to do this yet. But I’ll be very open and honest with her when she’s older. I also want her to know if she’s ever suffering then it’s ok to not be ok. I want her to know there is no shame in it - that’s really important to me.
Who helps you in the dark? (In your pits, your mental rock bottom - who is your hero?)
Without a doubt my husband - he could have run a mile. But instead, he’s stuck around, filled my dark times with positivity and never once made me feel bad for what I go through.
What helps you in the light? (Meditation? Procrastination? Perspiration? People?)
Being around people - I’m a social person and I’m definitely the best version of myself when I’m surrounded by my family & friends.
Is it hard to talk about your mental health? (Doesn't mean on Instagram necessarily, but do you feel the stigma is lifting and do you feel safe to speak your mind, even if it is possibly 'mental'?)
Yes and no. With those close to me I’m totally open and honest. With new mum mates (for example my NCT group) I’m not as honest - it’s something I’m working on. I feel the stigma is lifting - people talk about mental health now... but it’s no where near where it needs to be yet.
Where’s your head at?
I’m not really in the best place re my mental health due to severe sleep deprivation of having a 9 month old who still loves a night feed! My whole focus has been on her and I’ve certainly forgotten all my rules that help me beat my anxiety - no caffeine / no sugar / exercise / sleep - I’m doing the opposite of this! Hopefully in time as it gets a bit easier with my daughter I can focus on myself again. As they say - happy mum = happy baby!
Soft Play or Rehab?
Rehab! I think soft play would send me mental if I wasn’t already! ;-)
Jacobs Creek or a Jacobs Cracker?
Without doubt wine! Nothing beats a glass of wine and a long chat with my husband after a tough day. I just have to be careful I don’t use alcohol as a way to shift the crippling anxiety when it creeps in.
Nut Job or Nut Allergy?
Nut job - but I’m working on it!
Self Care or Self Sabotage?
Self care all the way - I need to take heed of my own advice though... it’s so easy to slip into self sabotage mode.
Journal or jog?
Both! I love writing my blog (again something I’ve taken a break from recently) and jogging is the best form of medicine.
Ask for help or happy to hermit?
Always, always ask for help. Don’t suffer in silence.
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