MENTAL MUTHA MEETS LUCIE AND THE BUMP
MENTAL MUTHA MEETS LUCIE AND THE BUMP
Are you a mental Mum or a Mum that’s mental?
I’m not sure if there is a difference here.. so both!
What do you do when you feel overwhelmed? Meditate? Talk? Hide?
I’m a talker which is probably a good thing in the long run. Weirdly, I was brought up to be quite secretive but in later life I suddenly had this explosion of emotions and I found talking it out to be the best medicine – if not just a tremendous release.
I do like to “hide” from my phone though at the same time. I find taking time away from social media and multiple whatsapp group convos so refreshing.
Do you discuss your mental health with your mum mates?
Yes and I love that. We’re all massive over-sharers, and we know when one of us is having a rough time. I’m lucky in the fact that I have different mum friends I can go to for different things – we’re a varied bunch. None of us are sugar coaters and I think that is a great quality.
How do you tackle mental health chats with your kids?
My littlen Harry is still young so probably doesn’t understand mental health as such, but we talk about how he is feeling all the time. Emotions are a big thing for four year olds (mine seems to be having an emotional breakdown every five minutes lately!). But we try and discuss why he feels sad or angry, and that it’s alright not to be happy all of the time. I really hope that Harry grows up talking about how he feels and his mental health as that’s something I never really did when I was younger.
Who helps you in the dark? (In your pits, your mental rock bottom - who is your hero?)
(Fun fact: I am actually scared of the dark haha!)
My fiancé Scott is my total hero. As much as we disagree on things and squabble I know he totally gets me when I’m a wreck. He knows how to talk me out of an anxious mind set and he knows exactly how to pick me up when life gets a bit too much. I am really lucky because he has experienced anxiety and panic attacks and he knows what it’s like when those feelings strike
What helps you in the light? (Meditation? Procrastination? Perspiration? People?)
Reading. Books, mainly. Anything dark and creepy or totally warped. I find reading a great way to get away from it all and I always make time in my day or evening to read at least a few pages of something fictional. Being around uplifting people also helps me out tons, especially if it involves a walk, fresh air and cake. I also do this thing, just in my head, where I try and focus on something positive even if I’m in a rough situation and I find that helps me with perspective
Is it hard to talk about your mental health? (Doesn't mean on Instagram necessarily, but do you feel the stigma is lifting and do you feel safe to speak your mind, even if it is possibly 'mental'?)
Before I had my son Harry I didn’t notice people talking about mental health but perhaps that was because having him was when my mental health struggles really kicked in. I seriously thought that every mum around me had their shit together, were making homemade hummus and weren’t crying into sicky muslins – when in fact 97% of them were doing the latter. I think social media has certainly made it easier to talk about mental health especially as you can do it all hiding behind a screen but I think the modern world has also come to a realisation that mental health is a serious issue and it needs to be a widely discussed subject.
Where’s your head at?
Right here, right now I’m a little cranky (hormones) if I’m honest
SOFT PLAY OR REHAB?
JACOBS CREEK OR A JACOBS CRACKER?
I actually hate wine so crackers for the win
NUT JOB OR NUT ALLERGY?
Total nut job. I’m definitely a bit out there sometimes, but who isn’t?
SELF CARE OR SELF SABOTAGE?
I am all about a bit of self-care these days. I love nothing more than popping on a face mask, some tan and indulging in some me time
JOURNAL OR JOG?
I really want my answer to be jog but it would be a complete lie
ASK FOR HELP OR HAPPY TO HERMIT?
I ask for help.. usually from my big sister!!
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