Are you a mental Mum or a Mum that’s mental?

I’m definitely something along the lines of…a person.. that just happens to be a mother... and happens to have a fair few mental health issues. 

What do you do when you feel overwhelmed? Meditate? Talk? Hide?

When I’m totally overwhelmed I just shut down. Hide under the covers!!! Darkness, sleep, warmth and chocolate are my friends. The amount of times I’ve sobbed into a bar of chocolate… 

Do you discuss your mental health with your mum mates?

I never used to. I thought I was just a weirdo that couldn’t cope with life. Now I do talk, and it turns out that most other people are just about holding it together too. The more I talk the less alone I feel, and the more I realise we are all the flipping same. Even that mum that walks past looking bloody perfect with her perfect takeaway coffee in its reusable cup in hand. Yeah, she was probably stressing about looking good to hide the pain, or something equally depressing. Cor blimey I’m cheery today!

How do you tackle mental health chats with your kid’s?

My two are just little ‘uns at 18 months and 3.5 years. We talk about feelings all the time, we have some awesome books that name emotions, and talk about mental health. “The Feelings Book” by Todd Parr is brilliant for teeny ones - and quite funny for older ones too. Plus who doesn’t relate to the page that says “sometimes I just feel like eating pizza”. I also stumbled upon a book called “The Strongest Mum” by Nicola Kent - and I highly recommend it for all parents. It’s an amazing book that reminds children that their parents are people too, and sometimes need a little (or a lot of) help! 

Who helps you in the dark? (In your pits, your mental rock bottom - who is your hero?)

My boyfriend is my total hero. He took on the role of primary caregiver in a flash when I was in hospital. And he knows how to calm me down when I’m in a tiz!

What helps you in the light? (Meditation? Procrastination? Perspiration? People?)

I’m about to be REALLY, REALLY ANNOYING…. but yoga has been incredible. I’ve always loved exercise, but at the moment I just don’t have it in me to go for a jog. But yoga seems very doable. It makes me feel like I’ve actually DONE something - exercise wise. And I’m way more bendy than I ever used to be. Not sure if that’s actually useful in everyday life… although I can now pick up that toy without holding my back like an 80 year old woman. 

Is it hard to talk about your mental health? (Doesn't mean on Instagram necessarily, but do you feel the stigma is lifting and do you feel safe to speak your mind, even if it is possibly 'mental’?)

I don’t feel like the stigma is gone, it’s definitely there, but I do find it easier to talk about mental health now that I’m in the practise of it. I still get cringey, and feel weird talking about personal things occasionally. But once the convo has started, there’s pretty much no stopping me. 

Where’s your head at? 

Right now I’m meant to be at this wonderful sounding event on mental health, but I was too bloody anxious to go. Which I’m not sure if that’s hilarious or really sad! Ha!! So I’d say my head’s a bit of a mess, and I’m so up and down… but thats BPD for ya! I’m definitely in a much better place than I was a year ago.

Soft Play or Rehab?

Well I’ve stayed at The Priory and the food was amazing…so….rehab hahah!

Jacobs Creek or a Jacobs Cracker?

Wine wins every time. No good for my mental health but …wine.

Nut Job or Nut Allergy?

I’m trying to work on my language around mental health, so I wouldn’t say the first, but I like nuts, give me a macadamia or brazil nut and I’m yours. Wait does that make me the first…ok NEITHER thanks.

Self Care or Self Sabotage?

Attempting the first, living with the second. 

Journal or jog?

Jog? MEGA LOLZ. I’ll do my yoga. I try to journal but I can’t concentrate.. this post has taken me days! Haha!

Ask for help or happy to hermit? 

I try to ask for help, but boy is it hard!! Working on that one.






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