If you have been triggered by the sexual assault news coverage this week, last week, month or year here are a few ways you can help yourself and reduce your anxiety, irritability, sadness or flashbacks by making yourself, your wellbeing and your mental health a priority.
Basically, I don't remember a time when I wasn't keeping some kind of feeling or thought hidden away, or conditioning myself to hide my feelings and put on my game face. I used to blame my love of alcohol on the lack of stable, responsible and healthy father figures, and the normalization of booze and drugs from an early age. And sometimes I would even let myself believe that I was somehow predestined to be an alcoholic because that's just “what we did”.
For me, anxiety started as that feeling of rocking on your chair a little too hard and tipping over the point of balance. If you manage to catch yourself before it’s too late the relief is almost euphoric, if you don’t, you end up in a heap on the floor, aching.
"Mum's really poorly at the moment. It’s not an illness you can see. What she needs from us is lots of love and patience." Looking back, I think this was a beautiful response at the height of a crisis.
“Do you have sex anymore? I mean.... for pleasure?” — An Idiot
CANDICE ON MOTHERHOOD, MARRIAGE AND YOUR MENTAL HEALTH
After having Esme, the walls came closing in, hard and fast. After a throwing, a TV at my husband (it was small and he is swift) and a family intervention, I conceded to the idea that I needed some help.