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MENTAL MUTHA MEETS THE BEES KNEES

MENTAL MUTHA MEETS THE BEES KNEES

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MENTAL MUTHA MEETS THE BEES KNEES

Are you a mental Mum or a Mum that’s mental?

Mum that’s mental

What do you do when you feel overwhelmed? Meditate? Talk? Hide?

Lose my shit. Vent and get it all out my system. Then cancel plans and take it back to basic. Get fresh air every day, reduce time on my phone, drink more water, exercise, sleep.

Do you discuss your mental health with your mum mates?

To one mum friend. We had our children less than a month apart and we’ve been known to message each other at 3am in desperation. She’s my ‘you are not alone’ friend who I can cry to but also share when my son Freddie says ‘agapooothpfffft’ to celebrate what a genius he is. She ‘gets it’.

How do you tackle mental health chats with your kid’s?

I only have my step daughter (7) who is old enough for this yet. If she’s playing up, I know it’s usually a sign something is bothering her so we find time to get some fresh air and go to the park and we’ve had many a chat on the swings. The hope is that she knows she can always share, talk and feel confident to be open with us all. With Freddie, as a boy, I guess I will just always find a way to let him know he is loved, he can talk openly and that who he is is perfect. His dad will also be very supportive which I think makes a difference for boys.

Who helps you in the dark? (In your pits, your mental rock bottom - who is your hero?)

Me. When I’m at rock bottom, and there’s nowhere left to turn, I know to find my way out I need to find it from within. Don’t get me wrong, I am surrounded by loved ones who support me when life is tough, my family are amazing, but in the dark pits of rock bottom, only I can find the way out, usually through a lot of meditation and patience. It’s a lesson I’ve learnt over the last 32 years of some pretty rubbish times including a period of 13 years where i spent every day fearing a hereditary terminal illness. I’ve been in the depths of the dark and found my way out by believing in myself

In the dark pits of rock bottom, only I can find the way out, usually through a lot of meditation and patience.
— Kelly - The Bees Knees

What helps you in the light? (Meditation? Procrastination? Perspiration? People?)

Good weather and laughter. If the sun is shining, I tend to feed off it. At home, I love winding down to some comedy. Gavin and Stacey, Friends, The Royale Family, Modern Family, anything that makes me feel happy.

Is it hard to talk about your mental health? (Doesn't mean on Instagram necessarily, but do you feel the stigma is lifting and do you feel safe to speak your mind, even if it is possibly 'mental'?)

I think if we are really honest with the root of our mental health issues, yes. There’s some of my struggles I’d struggle to share. I feel brave enough to say what the situation is that I struggle with but to be as vulnerable as to talk about what it’s done to me would be very hard.

Where’s your head at?

Content. It’s 5.30am and it’s just me and Freddie. It feels like the world is sleeping and it’s just us.

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