MENTAL MUTHA MEETS LUCY STENT
MENTAL MUTHA MEETS LUCY STENT
Are you a mental Mum or a Mum that’s mental?
Both, definitely! An equal dash of madness.
What do you do when you feel overwhelmed? Meditate? Talk? Hide?
I hide and I talk! My home is my happy place, the place I feel most safe, the place I lock myself away from the world to just be.
Do you discuss your mental health with your mum mates?
With my girlfriends, I wear my heart on my sleeve. When it comes to my mental health, I feel like they ‘get me’ and they get ‘it’. They don’t judge me and they accept that I’m still capable. I think we all fear that if we are truly honest on our down days people will not trust in us. Something I KNOW isn’t true but the anxiety of that possibility takes over- if that make sense?!
How do you tackle mental health chats with your kid’s?
My husband, Simon, and I are really open with our daughters in general, especially emotionally. We don't labour the point but our eldest daughter, Emelia who’s six definitely knows if I'm happy or sad, or even angry with Daddy! (Lucy smiled) We don't hide anything from them.
I compare it to single sex schools, if you never see the opposite sex, you’re likely to go crazy when you’re allowed near them! It’s the same with emotions, if you don't talk about feelings with your children from day dot, they just won’t know how to cope with them.
That’s the worst analogy ever, sorry!
Who helps you in the dark? (In your pits, your mental rock bottom - who is your hero?)
My girlfriends for sure, I won’t name them, but they know who they are and I couldn't be more grateful- everyone need a hero (or two) in their lives.
What helps you in the light? (Meditation? Procrastination? Perspiration? People?)
Wellbeing. My promise to myself in 2018 was, and still is, to take better care of me, full stop. Spend more time investing in my emotional and physical well- being. Making the time to paint my nail and shave my legs, eating cleaner and explore new foods. I’ve also been regularly attending my Power Yoga class, it’s the only hour of my week that my brain isn't racing at 100mph.
As a family we have several weekends away and UK holidays throughout the year- I love time with my tribe, this keep me very happy.
Is it hard to talk about your mental health? (Doesn't mean on Instagram necessarily, but do you feel the stigma is lifting and do you feel safe to speak your mind, even if it is possibly 'mental'?)
Gosh, yes so much, although I feel it is getting better, thanks to amazing mummy blogs like Mental Mutha. I love Instagram and Pinterest and branding is my business but I think we often do our fellow mummies a disservice, my “real life” is nowhere near as glamorous as my insta life.
We’re so lucky to be mums in an era where wellbeing is so embraced.
I think as you get older you care a little less what people think of you and realise that we’re all only human and emotions are normal. Having said that, I do sometimes overshare and get strange looks when I tell people my emotions are affected by a full moon- oh shit I’ve done it again!
Where’s your head at?
I’m good thank you. My head is running at 100mph as I’ve just launched by “Class of 2018” a 121 monthly coaching and guidance campaign for five lucky hand selected businesses, which I’m super excited about. I love working on projects I'm really passionate about and I just know when enough enough and I need time with my tribe.
Soft Play or Rehab?
Neither, they both sound hideous.
Jacobs Creek or a Jacobs Cracker?
Cracker, I love food and unless it’s a crime drama I'm not really interested.
Nut Job or Nut Allergy?
Total Nut Job!
Self Care or Self Sabotage?
Serious self care, my glass is always half full, it’s my coping mechanism.
Journal or jog?
I don’t tend to do either. I do love power yoga and lists.
Ask for help or happy to hermit?
Happy to hermit, however, because I’ve found a way of coping that works for me. I believe that everyone should benefit from seeing a therapist at some point in their lives- I once had a job where it was compulsory and I think it’s sometimes good to talk to a complete stranger. There’s amazing mental health charities out there and I would encourage anyone who is struggling to ask for help.
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Women talking unashamedly about their mental health and parenting innit.