MENTAL MUTHA MEETS NATASHA BAILIE
MENTAL MUTHA MEETS NATASHA BAILIE
Are you a mental Mum or a Mum that’s mental?
Mental MUTHA. Always have been mental - I find all the best people are no? The MUTHA part amplified it slightly for a bit there, but since the kid started school and I found myself with space, time and support I'm happily mothering whilst caring for my mental health.
What do you do when you feel overwhelmed? Meditate? Talk? Hide?
When I feel overwhelmed I hide, hermit, lie, make excuses and manage. I survive. I use my hermit time wisely by making self care my highest priority. I used to think 'Self Care' was a bubble bath. I now know it is so much more than that. For me it is writing, getting outside, being grateful, getting organised, resting, sleeping, enforcing my boundaries and laughing with the kid or my family and friends.
Do you discuss your mental health with your mum mates?
Abso-fucking-lutely. Nothing is off the menu. When we get together it is a free for all buffet meal deal on oversharing. No judgement, just love and kindness. It has taken effort, but it is well worth it to be at this point - the friendships I have today are strong, empowering and a force for good. Without these women I would be half the MUTHA I am today.
How do you tackle mental health chats with your kid’s?
I try to be as honest as possible with the kid, not to ever scare or alarm him, but I want him to understand there is no shame in struggling. We keep it light and we will make the conversation 'kid friendly' and ask him questions appropriately. We are trying to raise an emotionally intelligent dude who knows how to ask for help when he needs it. Every night before bed we make a list of three things we are grateful for that happened in our day, it is a small gesture, but it helps the kid find the good in the day. I try and snatch moments like this throughout the day, for example after school we have "friendship time" where we walk home and chat about who made us laugh the most, what we ate etc.
Who helps you in the dark? (In your pits, your mental rock bottom - who is your hero?)
In the pits - I am the only one who can pull myself from the burning building that is myself, but I have incredible friends who will douse me with water by chatting, poking and prodding till I spill the problem or problems. Mr Bailie knows how I am made and has had to rewire me a few times so he knows what to say or do to get to the root of my heartache quickly. I keep all of these people very close.
What helps you in the light? (Meditation? Procrastination? Perspiration? People?)
Laughing. I love to laugh, play and be silly and having a five year old is hilarious. The kid is so positive and light - you can't help but feel lifted hanging out with that small human.
Is it hard to talk about your mental health? (Doesn't mean on Instagram necessarily, but do you feel the stigma is lifting and do you feel safe to speak your mind, even if it is possibly 'mental'?)
No. Have we met?
Where’s your head at? (Right here in this moment, today)
It is OK and it is nice to say out loud.
Soft Play or Rehab?
Rehab. In my head it is a spa break with Mary Meadows, Oprah Winfrey, Brene Brown and Beyonce. Soft play is not a spa break and last time I slid down the slide into a 1000 plastic coloured balls I got a static shock off my polyester jumpsuit. The place is a health and safety hazard. I just wear sunglasses and rock in the corner hoping someone will commit me.
Jacobs Creek or a Jacobs Cracker?
Gin and crisps.
Nut Job or Nut Allergy?
Self Care or Self Sabotage?
Both. I am getting better at Self Care and I practise it. The self sabotage comes in waves and because of the self care effort I am far better at managing the sabotage when it rolls in to town.
Journal or jog?
I cannot believe I am saying this, but journal and no it's nothing to do with frequenting the aisles of Paperchase. Writing S&#T down helps - who knew?
Ask for help or happy to hermit?
Help others, but I am very happy to hermit and watch YouTube.
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