MENTAL MUTHA MEETS JESSICA AVEY
MENTAL MUTHA MEETS JESSICA AVEY
Are you a mental Mum or a Mum that’s mental?
Mum that's mental definitely - I shouted 'look horsey' out of the window today and the boys weren't even in the car, that's got to constitute being mental right?
What do you do when you feel overwhelmed? Meditate? Talk? Hide?
I'm a planner, taking control really helps me when I'm feeling overwhelmed so making to-do lists, delegating tasks and even talking them through with my mum/ friends/ instastory family helps things to feel more manageable and less overwhelming. I'm also HUGE on self care so if I can do this while in the bath with a face mask on then I get a small sense of winning at life.
Do you discuss your mental health with your mum mates?
I actually feel more comfortable talking about it to thousands of people I've never met on instastories and Youtube - I'm an ugly crier and get a bit awks when someone hugs me and I'm crying incase I snot on them (tmi sorry) so yeah, behind a screen is best for me.
How do you tackle mental health chats with your kid’s?
I've only ever had to touch on it really as my little ones are so, well, little. When we lost my sister in law for example I was very open to my eldest Jasper that it's okay for daddy, nanny, grandad etc to cry and it's a healthy way to let feelings out. I always encourage him to talk about his frustrations and to always ask his friends if they'd like to play if they're sat alone. It's a foundation for adulthood right? I also believe it's healthy for kids to witness all emotions, hiding them from things like anger and depression isn't going to give them a good understanding of it as they grow up right?!
Who helps you in the dark? (In your pits, your mental rock bottom - who is your hero?)
I have a small group of go-to friends that I can talk to about anything; they lift me up and most importantly listen without judgement.
What helps you in the light? (Meditation? Procrastination? Perspiration? People?)
Self care for sure, anything that is doing my mind, body and soul some good! If I don't exercise for a few days I start to feel that familiar morning depression creep in, so I love to get to the gym, get some fresh air, wash my hair (rare occasion), drink a green smoothie and get back that clear headed feeling.
Is it hard to talk about your mental health? (Doesn't mean on Instagram necessarily, but do you feel the stigma is lifting and do you feel safe to speak your mind, even if it is possibly 'mental'?)
No I've always spoken quite freely about it; which is surprising because I was the first in my immediate family to be on antidepressants and although they were understanding I don't think they quite 'got it'. I did so much research at the time and knew that mental health issues were so common and a completely normal physical 'thing' so I never felt ashamed, in fact I shouted it from the rooftops at times in an attempt to lift the stigma and cut the ignorance.
Where’s your head at?
I'm feeling content; I've learnt to listen to my body more and I'm now actually pretty in tune with it. If I start to feel low or angry I give my body/ mind what it needs and the response is usually pretty gratifying. I do still have my down days but I know what I need to do to pull myself out of them and I can only recommend that people find those ways for themselves - instead of striving for happy I cut out what makes me unhappy - a life minimisation of sorts and it's given me such a sense of zen.
Soft Play or Rehab?
Rehab, god I hate soft play. The boys thrive in the fresh outdoors and I'm just not a fan of the noise, overpriced food and dark tunnel slides!
Jacobs Creek or a Jacobs Cracker?
Cracker, I'm not a big drinker unless it's gin! Plus alcohol does nothing for my mood, it's a depressant for me so I try to steer clear.
Nut Job or Nut Allergy?
I'm going to let you in on an interesting/ useless fact - I love peanuts but hate peanut butter. I could happily eat satay sauce from a jar and any other nut butter spread by the spoonful but there's something about peanuts in sweet form that makes me gag! Spicy nuts- hello! Sugar coated peanuts - hell no!
Self Care or Self Sabotage?
Self care, I preach that shit whenever I can. I HAVE to make myself a priority to be able to be a good mother, friend, wife etc. Yes I'd take a bullet for my kids but if I had to eat before my children to stop a migraine coming on I'd do it, for their sake and mine!
Journal or jog?
Journal, I'm a Phoebe from friends kind of runner and no-one needs to see that!
Ask for help or happy to hermit?
Ahh help I guess; although I'm more of a 'no it's okay, no it's okay, no it's okay ... okay yes please do my washing mum' kinda gal haha
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